My son
My 14 yr old son opened the door for a woman at the local shop a few days ago, he always does - very considerate lad. When she glared at him whilst barging past him without a word of thanks, almost knocking him into the newspaper display, I very loudly thanked him on behalf of the "miserable old bitch who has the manners of a pig and the backside to match"
(Freakmandu, Sun 27 Dec 2009, 15:03, 9 replies)

i was told off
the other day for holding the door open for a lady. The elderly gentleman with a walker behind her thanked me for holding the door open for him.

Unless I'm in a serious rush I will always hold the door for anyone more then 15 years older then I am.
(seshmarls, Mon 28 Dec 2009, 2:33, closed)

Which, of course, is the best rebuttal if they accuse you of being sexist and patronising...
"Actually, I wasn't holding the door for you because you're a lady, I was holding it because you LOOK REALLY OLD."
(LongJohnBaldry, Mon 28 Dec 2009, 10:04, closed)

I used to be like your son
Now, I treat women the same way I treat men, holding doors open only if actually necessary; after all, most women are not so physically weak that they can't open a door.

If I should ever receive a complaint about my lack of chivalry, my response would be something like "your gender fought hard for equal rights, now deal with the consequences...

...you pig-arsed miserable old bitch."
( chart cat has an itch, Mon 28 Dec 2009, 11:11, closed)

My sentiments exactly

(TheColonel, Tue 29 Dec 2009, 11:03, closed)

If you're going through a door...
and you know someone is following you, or is about to come through the other way, why not just hold it for them anyway, regardless of age or gender? I try to. It's just polite.
(MrBeansHoliday, Mon 28 Dec 2009, 22:26, closed)

I think this is more about
going above and beyond politeness to hold the door open for a lay-deeee.

Nobody is suggesting you should close the door in anyone's face, just don't waste your time being the gentleman butler for all and sundry, it's rather patronising and, in my opinion, shows a certain deep-rooted inadequacy in those who act this way.
( chart cat has an itch, Tue 29 Dec 2009, 11:16, closed)

I hold the door open for anyone.
Usually I'll do a camp little wave and dance as I step backwards to let them through too.

This alone probably explains a lot. Hm. I think I'll stop.
(Captain Skippy pooed in a bag and left it on your doorstep, Wed 30 Dec 2009, 16:01, closed)

nowt wrong in holding a door open for someone
I hold the door open if someone is behind/in front of me and is also going through the door. I won't specifically hold it open just for one certain gender when they're nowhere near it, that's just silly.
(RVD420 has his world coming down on, Fri 1 Jan 2010, 17:13, closed)

I agree completely
It does piss me off if people do not acknowledge you... though I generally go for the pointed "You're welcome". Though Pig-arse sounds like she deserved your wrath.

I certainly don't see it as an inadequacy/inferiority thing.
( @><|= w0nu!) or cunt to my friends, Tue 29 Dec 2009, 22:38, closed)