I don't know about the UK, but in the US
it seems like rape trials put the woman on trial as much as the rapist. Although Vampyrecat is much too nice in how she would deal with this idiot/animal/piece of shit (he deserves much more than a simple punching out, in fact he might like that, castration might be a good alternative), trying to prosecute at this point it could end up being a very painful choice.

Please don't get me wrong, I firmly believe that any rape should be vigorously and fully prosecuted as soon as possible but years later if necessary. The thing that is really wrong though is how much pain a woman may have to go through during the trial.

As your experiences are obviously still eating at you, I agree with the recommendation to see a therapist. From what I have read, the mental damage caused by rape can stay with people for a lifetime. Focusing on your own happiness and self-contentment might be a better first step.
(MichaelS wasn't picked again, Mon 18 May 2009, 16:02, 1 reply)

The problem is
The lack of any evidence. Especially after so long. If there's any physical evidence it's far easier- there's testimony but there's also other stuff to back her up. It's just that it's really hard to prove anything in a rape trial as there's so much emotion and so little physical evidence to separate "rape" from consensual sex. Especially if it's your partner doing the raping.

I guess the only way you could prove it is if he'd done it previously you could set up the camera to record all night in the hope of catching him the next time.
( uberdeity Wondered why Owen Lars knew of the term "hell" on, Mon 18 May 2009, 16:31, closed)

I know all this, but as a father of two daughters, and knowing a couple of women who have been raped
I am aware (as much as a man can be) of the long term devastation rape causes. In this case I don't think he could be successfully prosecuted. I also know there are cases where there are false accusations. (That said, I don't think the false accusations are really all that common because of the trial women who make these allocations are exposed to.)

Rape is a horrible violent crime/action that should be punished as vigorously as possible. We need to make sure it really happened but we also need to make sure that when a woman (or man for that matter) says no, then she has to be listened to.
(MichaelS wasn't picked again, Mon 18 May 2009, 17:55, closed)