My Older Man
I am 23, he is 40 in February, only just old enough to be my dad. (Not that anyone would have gone near him when he was sixteen, so he says, and my dad is 71, so there is a similar age gap between my parents.) He is concerned sometimes that we look like an odd couple, but I am rather proud of him. He has very beautiful eyes, a great figure and I love his smile lines.

We met at work in an unpleasant call centre and have been friends for two years. We have confided in eachother through difficult times, and gone out drinking in better times. When times are uncertain we do both. :) So we have been together since April now and never have I felt so good.

My parents disapprove and his parents disapprove. I think my mother is keen to warn me about the mistakes she made, to avoid me repeating them. I don't worry on that account. Fortunately our friends have been supportive and encouraging and we are very happy together.

I have been out with some men who are closer to my own age and found them to be lacking in decent stories to tell. My lover and I can rattle on about absolutely nothing and still end up on the floor laughing. He introduced me to b3ta, and I drag him out dancing whenever I can.

If all that isn't enough, I have never enjoyed sharing my bed with anyone as I do now, with my wonderful old git of a man.

Apologies for length, I am quite well aware that a tale too long can be a pain in the unmentionables.

***my first ever post, please be gentle***
(herefromthere, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 13:52, 12 replies)

That's a nice story.
And I know how annoying respective families can be about this kind of thing.
( M3rx likes the Asian ladies, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:25, closed)

How could it possibly be wrong?
He introduced you to B3ta so it's all good... :)
( snee held his breath since, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:34, closed)

thanks
I was out on Sunday night with a couple of my friends who spent much of the evening telling me how wonderful and funny bloke is. Beginning to wonder if they might be after him a bit. Gays. :)
(herefromthere, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:40, closed)

Does he post here?

( Dr Preference AjcuiVd289, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:56, closed)

yes
he has been known to, but not for a while I think. Why do you ask, may I ask?
(herefromthere, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 15:07, closed)

yes
but how will it feel when you are in your sexual prime and he is a wrinkly old man with a shrivelled penis which doesn't do anything except leak urine? All very well being happy now, but you should seriously think of the long term implications, what if he developed some sort of degenerative illness and you lost a large proportion of your life looking after an old man who might not even recognise you, wouldn't feel so great about it then I guess. Maybe your mum, who has been through exactly the same experience as you is simply looking out for you, don't think that your relationship is 'special' because everyone thinks that and the harsh reality is that it isn't.
History has a habit of repeating itself
(little lord muthafuckin fauntleroy, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 16:53, closed)

You've obviously never heard of unconditional love.
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( girlinthehole, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 17:07, closed)

oh aye
you are right, and I am wrong, I bow down to your righteousness and beg for your forgiveness for having an opinion
(little lord muthafuckin fauntleroy, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 17:08, closed)

:)
thanks for the support Big-Girl's-Blouse.
yay for you!
(herefromthere, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 17:13, closed)

exactly the same experience?
though the age-gap is similar, the situations are very different.

As far as I am aware there is no history of any such illness in his family, and none in mine either. My man is not yet 40, I don't expect him to become decrepit any time soon.

Not that it is particularly relevant, but my parent's marriage broke down because I don't believe they fancied eachother in the first place. They just wanted to make babies. They did that and if I do say so myself, they did a pretty good job of it. My Dad, though he is approaching 71 is in better health than most 50 year olds, beats my 22 year old brother at squash and plays badminton twice a week, could walk forty miles in a day and drink most men half his age under the table with a smile on his face, then get up to teach a teenager to jive.

My man is fit and healthy and sharp of wit, we fancy eachother something terrible and will take each day as it comes.

It sounds like you have been hurt, I do hope you don't speak from experience.
(herefromthere, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 17:11, closed)

In the end
It's YOUR relationship, no-one has got any right to decide what is right or wrong for the two of you except the two of you.

My rule is that as long as there are no kids or animals involved and you don't want to tell me the mindbleach requiring details, you can do whatever the fuck you want.

Sorry Al, etc. I'm not telling you to stop your goat loving. I know there are true and deep feelings involved. I'm more thinking of the fuckwits who get off on stomping teh fluffeh kittens to death in spike heel shoes.
(misskitty reeks of sex and turpentine; laudanum afternoons, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 1:56, closed)

ARGH!
I only discovered that on Snopes this week.I only saw the stills (before anything bad happens) and still want to throw up havng remembered it again. Just seeing its eyes....poor kitty.

I'd spike that bitch to death myself if I could. I'm very liberal and compassionate about poverty, cultural difference, etc. But kitty-snuff porno?!?! Fuck no!!!

*brain-bleach again*
(Angie the Redneck Wonder, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 10:12, closed)