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on one hand, I'm inclined to do the automatic "internet with a pinch of salt" take on this, but I know it's a real condition and your story is either true and heartbreaking, or so skillfully written that I'm happy to be duped, so I'll assume it's real.

Firstly, you have my sympathies, it can't be an easy thing to cope with. Since this seems to be the b3ta sex thread for now, I may as well chuck in my own observations. I have a problem similar in nature to yours (though less debilitating). I was born with my urethra emerging halfway down my shaft (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypospadias), making it impossible to pee standing up or have a reasonable chance of traditional baby-making. My parents took the decision to have it surgically corrected before I was erally old enough to know what was what (a decision I have since decided that I agree with, thankfully). This left me with a functional penis that looks weird as hell and is heavliy scarred - check out the pic on the Wikipedia site above for an example.

It took me years to get over the fear of showing it, and more than one girl has seen it and just been so turned off, she's said "It's weird, I'm not touching it." and left.

It's taken me 10 years to find someone who's comfortable with it that I also want to be with. I can only hope that the person for you is close by. I realise that anyone who doesn't have the experience you're going through can't truly understand it, but I'd urge you to not give up. There are ways and means to have a fulfilling sex life without relying heavily on penetrative intercourse, but you'll always feel as though they are 'not enough' unless you belive in yourself. And yes, I sound like Oprah, but it's true nonetheless.
( Mockingbird Practitioner of SCIENCE, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 10:12, Reply)