i am a lady
and i agree with you. mental. does she stride up to the door of a shop and scream at you, "OPEN IT FOR ME YOU SILLY GIT"? does she sit in the passenger side of a car and get more and more red until you get out and walk around it and open the door for her? i wouldn't demand something like that from someone who has no emotional investment in me. instead, with my fiance, i give positive reinforcement when he does nice things (for example, "Oh, you're getting the car door for me, thank you! i love it when you do that!"). there, you get the reward AND the hint. and the bj later for being a good boy.
(fai is rocking khaz modan server as of, Fri 2 Jul 2010, 1:21, 1 reply)

It must be great being one of your friends fai.
No emotional investment? They've been friends for over 10 years.
( The Awful Puppy Bakery is still bored, Fri 2 Jul 2010, 6:38, closed)

Er, yeah that's it really. I don't understand where this rule came from, or why she has suddenly become a Victorian style 'lady' who expects to be treated as such. She still drinks pints, hasn't stopped belching, farting or swearing, and has shown no interest in lavender-scented handkerchiefs or embroidery.

That's all fine. I do want the friendship to continue, but on the former basis, not the new one.
(slowly play it cool, Trig, Fri 2 Jul 2010, 8:08, closed)

At a guess
Because she had decided she wanted to shag you, therefore a new set of rules must be applied.

Platonic friend = relaxed, let it go, no right to harass etc.

Proper relationship = he does what I say, which may cosist of lots of wierd shit that I never mentioned, because he was just a platonic friend.

She needs to have convinced herself that her decision to give up the beaver is in fact something that YOU are demanding, and that she therefore has the right to demand concessions. I'm not saying that's how women operate, but I my experience, that's how women operate.
( Not Pineapple anymore, Fri 2 Jul 2010, 8:40, closed)

This sounds breathtakingly plausible
But then I am an unbelievable mysogynist who will believe anything if it makes women sound like nutters.


No, really.
(Falstaff's Spiritual Successor, Fri 2 Jul 2010, 10:23, closed)

I did consider that possibility
but not until some time after I'd screamed "I don't want to shag you!" at her in the middle of a crowded street.

But women like it when you play hard to get, right?
(slowly play it cool, Trig, Fri 2 Jul 2010, 11:55, closed)