I wasn't going to say anything...
But I got out of something very similar a while ago, and I'm wayyy older than you were, very much old enough to know better. But I didn't, so I don't think you should be hard on yourself, because inexperience is not always good protection from people like that.
And that's why I'm not Sparky anymore...
(Beer Elf Thought this was like a campfire, anyhow, on, Wed 5 May 2010, 20:10, 1 reply)

like I mentioned
above, it was also the fact that she was manipulative and controlling, giving me threats if I did leave her, threats to kill herself etc. I guess that stuff is horrible no matter what age you are.

Glad you got out of the similar relationship. I firmly believe that my time with her was very damaging in many ways indeed.
(Hernandez Fiendish probably won't be here until at least, say, Thu 6 May 2010, 9:48, closed)

mutf
Sorry, I cant rememeber which way round these letters go. Maybe someone can help in rearranging. MUTF
(justin(e), Thu 6 May 2010, 13:12, closed)

thanks
for your input. "MTFU" perhaps? Very enlightening. I didn't realise it was wrong and "not manly" of me to feel hurt and confused by blatantly irrational abusive behaviour. I didn't post this looking for advice, it's just a story of a few years of my life. I still can't quite get at what your original reply was suggesting. Obviously if I were stronger at that time then things would have been different, but I wasn't. So, whatever.
(Hernandez Fiendish probably won't be here until at least, say, Thu 6 May 2010, 13:21, closed)