Be strong, my friend!
It always amazes me how downright racist some Asian families can be without even realising it. If a white family rejected their child's choice of partner because they were of Indian origin, there would be no hesitation from anyone to call them racists. But for some weird reason there's less uproar when it's the other way round.

I am happy to hear that you want to break free of that whole "do it to please my parents" thing. I know someone - a woman of Tunisian origin - whose husband is violent. She wants a divorce - but HER PARENTS are against the idea of divorce because "it will bring shame upon the family"! FFS - she needs to tell her mum where to stick it. If her mum wants to endure beatings then that's her choice - but she has no right to tell her daughter what to do with her own life.

I hope your family will eventually learn to see that you are an adult and you have the right to choose whichever partner you wish. I understand it's infinitely harder for gay Asians...
(EuroSong I love horse meat: best of all the animals, Sun 4 Apr 2010, 12:53, 1 reply)

Cheers dude
It always amazes me how some people feel you should put up with all manner of crap in the name of "Honour". Don't get me started on it as I'll have a right old rant about it, suffice to say that my views are completely different to what most people in the Asian/Indian community have, which is why I sometimes feel like a bit of an outsider. I live for the day when everyone can break free from this way of thinking and can make their own independent life choices without having to put up with shit from people.

I do feel sorry for your matey, I only hope that she's been able to break free from this shitty situation and make a better life for herself. Everyone deserves happiness, no one should be going through unnecessary pain and suffering.
(RVD420 has his world coming down on, Sun 4 Apr 2010, 15:35, closed)

Maybe in time...
my views are completely different to what most people in the Asian/Indian community have

Well, the hope is that once YOUR generation grows to the same age as your parents' generation now - then the prevailing attitudes will have changed. Then your parents' generation will be the OAPs, and will have a lot less power and influence.
(EuroSong I love horse meat: best of all the animals, Sun 4 Apr 2010, 17:40, closed)

That is the hope, dude....
...though it really all depends on how strong my generation is in maintaining their own opinions and viewpoints in the face of opposition.
(RVD420 has his world coming down on, Mon 5 Apr 2010, 21:07, closed)