Dear Barry
I hope you've heard back by now, but if for any reason you haven't then I'd be inclined to put it down to experience and move on...as hard as that sounds. If she's interested she'll be in touch, if not there's not much you can do about it.

@CHCB
Finding out why he treated you the way he did will satisfy your curiosity and maybe go some way to ensuring that he sees you as a decent human being.
But are you really, really sure that
a)you want to give him the chance (potentially) to be unpleasant to you again and
b)is his opinion of you that valuable?

I once dated a guy who was incredibly nice at first - the dream man in many respects. Soon though as I got to know him better he began to attempt to control and manipulate me by telling me how he thought I should conduct my life and then when I disagreed telling me I was clearly a loser. He ended up completely losing it with me in the middle of a busy street - long story which isn't really worth repeating but suffice to say I never contacted him again after that outburst.
No matter what I had done, I did not deserve that treatment. No one does.
I could have been in touch to find out why he'd behaved like that. I could have endeavoured to remain at least his friend...but I don't treat my friends the way he treated me. He didn't deserve to remain my friend.

I don't think your chap deserves to remain your friend either. Friends don't purposely reduce each other to tears for any other reason than laughter.

You're worth far more than that. Forget him and move on.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 28 May 2008, 23:23, Reply)