^ this
No chance to sort things out or say goodbye, but it must be more than made up for that you don't get a drawn out, increasingly painful period leading to a death that you and the family are effectively just counting down the days to.
( drimble he'd been white, he'd been black, Tue 18 Sep 2012, 11:45, 1 reply)

Maybe, but at least you have the time to mentally prepare for the inevitable.

When someone you love dies suddenly, it can take years and years for the full impact to register, and during that time your emotions are so unpredictable, you turn into a completely different person which can alienate other loved ones.

I guess what I'm saying is that there's no 'better' way to lose someone you love.
(BinDipper, Tue 18 Sep 2012, 12:33, closed)

Yeah I've seen that side of the coin too,
albeit not a "family" member. See my post below.

Still stick with what I said - as long as it relatively quick and not too messy I'd go for quick & cheesy over long & drawn out any day.
(Misery McUglywife an attention seeking sociopathic fuckstain., Tue 18 Sep 2012, 13:05, closed)

I'd rather a loved one died quickly, painlesly and unexpectedly to them.
I'm big enough and ugly enough to sort myself out, or not, fuck how it may affect me mentally I don't want anyone I love to die slowly in pain and sorrow.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Tue 18 Sep 2012, 13:53, closed)

Worth a read:
news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7564061.stm
not aimed at you btw, just thought it was relevant to this thread
( drimble he'd been white, he'd been black, Tue 18 Sep 2012, 14:13, closed)

That is very depressing.
But vaguely hopeful too. I do hope the law can work to make things easier for people in horrible situations.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Tue 18 Sep 2012, 22:29, closed)

I've seen both sides
Dad had bone cancer diagnosed about ten years after Mum died, took him six months to depart this mortal coil from diagnosis. But he was so prepared to go. I wouldn't say he was religious, but he had 'faith'. He said he was fine with it and anyway he wanted to see Mum again(bless). It went to his brain, and he reverted to a small child, to the point where in hospital we would feed him like a baby (open mouth, spoon in, wipe chin). Thankfully the last few days he was pretty much unconscious. Zapped out on morphine. A few strange things happened around this time, but probably more our imagination than spiritual. But, who knows.........
Neither way is nice nor easy........
(Monkee girl not a monkee, not a girl, Wed 19 Sep 2012, 0:46, closed)