why
are so many people making the assumption that this girl is saying it would be somehow acceptable if this (or similar) was done to a guy?

I'm getting a bit f**ked off at the nasty little vein of misogyny i've seen creeping into the qotw lately. I don't think KMWIP's original tale is one of them - it was mean, yes, and reckless, but in the context of someone who's been badly hurt it's not that terrible, and it certainly isn't rape. Unfortunately, it obviously awoke memories of a horrible (but very different) experience for the girl, and she's responded overemotionally. But nowhere in her message does she even hint that it would be OK or even somehow applauded if a woman had taken a similar kind of revenge on a guy. I don't know any woman that thinks like that, thank God, so please don't stereotype us all as that kind of vile human being.

And as for that bilious little line about bead and shawl-wearing-vegan-etc-yadder-blah, what a shame you couldn't do better than some lazy sneering caricature. I for one feel sorry for this girl, though I don't condone groundless designations of rape. She's been through a pretty horrific experience, so maybe a bit of old-fashioned charity might be nice. She might have said something a stupid and OTT, but it hardly makes her Robert Mugabe, does it?

/rant
(jennymnemonic, Mon 29 Sep 2008, 21:15, 3 replies)

That's a valid point
but I am confused as to where this "nasty little vein of misogyny" is?
(Bazongaloid, Mon 29 Sep 2008, 22:05, closed)

I know
it's in a willy.
(powervator and NONE SHALL PASS, Mon 29 Sep 2008, 22:09, closed)

is it misogony..
to say that if it was a girl saying "I put a used tampon in my cheating fella's herbal tea" (potentially toxic), which we have had on here recently, then all the ladis would be whooping and hollering, but if a guy says "my girlfriend of 8 years, who I loved, cheated on me and potentially exposed me to a life-threatening STD by acting like a slut, so I played a prank that was childish but ultimately non-lethal to teach her a lesson" he gets a kicking from all the weirdos who crawl out of the woodwork in order to label any man who does anything either a rapist or sexist bastard, primarily due to their own mental issues being projected onto every man they come into contact with?

Or, alternatively, are we now seeing an upsurge of post-feminist PC-thought control where we can only post if we allow bunny boilers and cheating girls to live a consequence-free life and take all the emotional blackmail, mind-games and psychological torture their actions can bring and act as if everything is just fine with it?

I'm not saying it was the correct/mature/sensible thing to do, but what she did was, in actuality, much worse - not to mention the fact that, as this is a web site, these posts could be total bullshit in the first place?
(Chad, Mon 29 Sep 2008, 22:37, closed)

Hmm..
Are you a vegan? Are you? I bet you are. Do you wear shawls? Do you? Are they nice and comfy?

You're not allowed into my vegetarian, scarf wearing cariacature; I'm afraid you'll have to stay in the one you made up all by yourself. So there.

Oh, and the bilious bit. There's nothing more bilious than the reply KMWIP got; accusations of rape, images of family members, the use of the nasty C word. If indeed the replyee was going through a repressed trauma, she's definitely at the angry stage and not the weeping into her jumper (or shawl, or scarf, or non-gender specific woven garment) stage. If I were a bloke I'd be shitting myself I'd be the next on her shag-list.
( no longer a user, Wed 1 Oct 2008, 7:42, closed)