Not sure where to start with this one so I’ll just blurt it out….

I found my natural mother via Friends Reunited.

The story, (in case you’re interested but a much shortened down version)

I was adopted by my Mum and Dad (who I class as my real parents) from birth and have had a great life to tell the truth.

My Mum and Dad have never kept it from me that they weren’t my ‘Natural’ parents and they always supported me every time I showed and interest in tracing my natural mother, this only happened a few times during my life though but they even tried to help me whenever possible, in fact they even gave me all the paperwork that they had from when they adopted me, so I knew real details like my natural mothers name.

Anyway to cut to the chase, I was messing around on friends reunited and typed her name in and well, bugger me it came up! I knew it was her because there were certain details that matched like age, school, hoped profession.

So I sat there (at work) on some shitty Windows Millennium Pc staring at it thinking ‘Well Fuck Me!’ I never expected that to come up.

So I did what any normal person would do and typed her a message (after joining the site so I could send one).

I wanted to respect the fact that her life would have changed a lot so I kept it as vague as possible in case someone else read it. Something along the lines of:

‘Hi, I last saw you about 26 years ago at ****** hospital, how’s things, bit about me etc etc… hope this get to you ok and feel free to message me back when you pick yourself up off the floor’

I figured this would be obvious to her who I was but no-one else.

But I couldn’t send it, I had the mouse over the send button but my hand wasn’t on it, not that it needed to be because one of the lads at work ‘Gareth’ pressed it for me! Cheers mate!

Well I got a reply within 24 hrs saying she was shocked and happy and all mixed up, so was I!

Anyway short version as promised – we met up, and I found out that I have 2 other Sisters and a Brother along with Nieces, Nephews, Aunties, Uncles and Cousins I suppose things have been going well over the past 7/8 years, we sort of keep in touch after the initial whirlwind of meeting everyone.

I’ve never asked about my natural Father, never really bothered me meeting him although the older I get (34 in 3 weeks), the more of an urge I get to trace him, maybe it’s me wanting to know if I’ll go bald or the big ‘C’ or something??!

I know his name and age, so if anyone has any good ways to trace then Gaz me.

Through all this my Mum and Dad have stood by me and supported me going through some very strange emotions guilt being a good one! and I’d like to thank them for that (well, I already have)

Well there you go really, that’s it.

Thanks, Friends Reunited.

(Sorry for length)


(Kip, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 13:09, 9 replies)

that
gets a click from me, im lucky coming from quite possibly the most mundane, middle of the road family ever sometimes I guess!
(Halfy By light alone, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 13:23, closed)

Hey that's awesome!
Bout the only positive answer to this QOTW I've seen.

*click*

Also, I believe the Sally Army are good for helping people trace people.

That reminds me of a story. My ex and his mate were walking down the street and his mate said "watch this" and went up to a middle aged couple laden with shopping bags. After some preamble he shouted "GERONIMO!" at them and ran back giggling as they picked up their dropped shopping. "Wtf?" said my ex. The answer: "I said I was from the Salvation Army and asked if they'd like a War Cry"...
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 13:25, closed)

Thats a great story
If it puts your mind at ease, baldness in men comes from your mother rather than your father.
So if her dad and brothers etc lost their hair you probably lose yours, but if they didnt you should be ok. Random useless fact for you there! Sorry it wasnt anything actually useful...
( TheGirlWithNoName, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 13:29, closed)

Cheers
that's good to know anyway.
(Kip, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 13:32, closed)

True indeed
The MPB gene is on the X rather than the Y chromosome.
(davywavy, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 15:06, closed)

then why am I going bald?
none of my mum's male fmaily were bald
(bamboozled Can hear you getting fatter, Tue 16 Sep 2008, 22:55, closed)

Nice story
I had a similar experience with FU when my cousin, whom I hadn't seen in over 20, found me on the site and got in touch.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Wed 17 Sep 2008, 12:24, closed)

cool.
I hope things turned out ok.
(Kip, Wed 17 Sep 2008, 13:04, closed)

Yeah, it did
We met up a couple of times, but she's in Eastbourne and I'm up north. hooray for email!
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Wed 17 Sep 2008, 14:03, closed)