I'm back
home in just over a month. I was going to see how things panned out with the idiot but you unruly ruffians have persuaded me to do otherwise.

I will most definitely be seeing her within the first couple days of my return. I think it'd be better if I told her in person. Which is what I'm going to do.

Thanks everyone. Sincerely.
(Barry from Eastenders is, despite the words written above, not a woman, Tue 10 Nov 2009, 13:48, 4 replies)

good luck to you fella, hope it works out for you
make sure you keep in contact with her regularly before you come back to speak with her. You've got a little while to think about what you'll say etc, and if you see her 'out of the blue' after just returning, you'll either forget what you'd plan to say, or rush it to get everything out. If you make little and often efforts now to just let her know you're thinking of her, (text, email, phone etc) when you see her next month it will hopefully mean you'll speak to her more naturally, and hopefully more comfortably for the pair of you.
/tuppenceworth


Good luck fella
( The Great Architect is still waiting for his account to be deleted on, Tue 10 Nov 2009, 15:31, closed)

Good luck!

(Meganinja, Tue 10 Nov 2009, 15:38, closed)

Attaboy!
You know it makes sense!
Good luck, fella!
(Billy The Fish wants to gargle with Lucy Pinder's bath water, Tue 10 Nov 2009, 18:16, closed)

You're procrastinating
It's great that you've decided to confront her about this, but you're stalling by invoking this whole 'once I get back' chestnut. I've missed enough boats in my life to know a procrastinator when I see one.

I think your decision to do this face to face is spot on. So if you're serious, and if this could lead to something very long term (and it sounds that way), get yourself a ticket and get to her. It's true I have zero idea what sort of distances are involved, but frankly, it's only money, and I don't say that because I've got a lot of the stuff (far from it).

If you really can't reach her earlier, fair enough. But don't allow 'when I get back' to become a mask for 'when I get back after some unforeseen circumstance will have excused me from confronting her'.

Best of luck to you.
(Good old boy just like yer grandma!, Wed 11 Nov 2009, 17:56, closed)